I read this in a blog I subscribe to by Chris Guillebeau - a quote by Jim Rohn: 

"We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret and disappointment." 


I remember being told many,
many times over the course of my life that all I needed for (fill-in-the-blank) was "a little discipline."  From that, I learned that I must be weak-willed, and unable to do the things that other people were doing quite naturally. 

The thing is, the fact that discipline IS (and always has been) what is required, is just as true as the fact that
discipline is NOT easy - and never has been - for anyone

If it were, artists wouldn't be tortured or depressed when inspiration fails, the entire human race would be at the weight that nature wanted them to be, we would all excel at whatever our hearts desired, and there would be no credit card debt. 

Having written that, I can admit to knowing ONE person who is a shining star on all those fronts.  One.  And he is a success in his life, and an inspiration as a friend, except when I'm down and letting emotions, disappointments, or struggles get the best of me. 


At that point, when all I want is a magic elixir to make everything right - poof - the best I can do for myself is to take the next right step.  And it doesn't
have to be a big one. 

But I must take one. 


And then tomorrow, another.


(For me, it doesn't seem to matter what it is...but surely something I don't feel like doing.)

And this is where reward of discipline shows itself, and its benefits are revealed in enormous proportion to the seemingly small effort I had to force myself to make.  (And yes, I DO have to force it.)

When I'm envious of my friend, seeing the end product of a lifetime of discipline, I have to remember that it is the result of a first step, and then another, day after day, year after year, whether he wants to or not.  And that habit is just as strong as the habit of it's inverse, procrastination, sloth, fearful laziness. 


Huh.


OK, so I've taken this step of writing a blog post for the week this morning - heavens...even
before coffee - and know that it will lead to another step I won't want to take today, but will. 

And I know that I will have dodged the "pain of regret and disappointment" just for today.
 
 
In June, I was asked to sing our National Anthem for the graduation ceremony of The Art Institute of Philadelphia.

The energy in the hall was as palpable as it was audible, from the crinkly cellophane of street vendor flower bouquets, to the hundreds of red, blinking eyes of parents' camcorders. 

At this time in my life, I found it interesting and inspiring - and not a little melancholic - to be on the other side of the festivities, wishing so much that I could have known then what I know now.  Several things stood out that afternoon. 

First, there were a small group of students who excelled, with many of that select few picking up multiple merit awards.  They shined.  By comparison, the rest who filed up to received their diplomas, didn't.  It thought, would they ever shine, if they weren't shining now?

Second, the one who shone brightest, perhaps not coincidentally, was the Valedictorian.  I had to wonder if his magnetic personality, artistic optimism, and energetic vision brought him his academic success, or if his successes served to increase his charisma.  I concluded that one must increase the other.  It obviously didn't matter which way it worked in his case, because - either way - he had it!  I envied him.  A lot.

Third, the Dean's Address.  It sounded quite simple: a 4-step plan for success.  So laughably simple, in fact, that I wondered why one wouldn't just know these things.  But like so many things in life, we (OK, I) think that complexity equals profundity.

The 4 keys to Success:
(1) Show up.
(2) Exceed expectations.
(3) Ask for help when you need it.
(4) Savor the experience.

Simple?  Yes. 
Easy?  Lord, no.

Each step contradicts a corresponding human condition: (1) Procrastination, (2) Trying to get away with doing the bare minimum, (3) Stubborn self-sufficiency, and (4) Thinking that things could always be better.

So, in thinking lately about what to do about finding other retail locations for Belle Pietre, I've decided to heed step #3, by asking for help from friends and fans. 

Do you know of, or are you a customer of, an artisan boutique in your area?  One that handles hand-crafted items of all sorts, including jewelry?  If you've seen my work, you'll be able to determine if the shop and Belle Pietre would be a good match. 

I'd love to know of any such shops, and would be most grateful to you for helping to make a connection! 

(...and I promise to savor the experience!)

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